492 E 13th Ave #208 Eugene, OR   |   24524 Suttle Road, Veneta, OR

(541) 349-0202 lisa@risingheart.net

Sample Ceremonies

Sample Ceremonies

by Reverend Lisa L. Burtraw

Introduction
Micha, Rames & Sophie have invited you here today to share in this joyous celebration of their bond of love for one another. With the purest intentions from their hearts to commitment in love and marriage, they will take their vows in the presence of you as their chosen witnesses; you their loving family and friends. They have asked you to be here with them, so you can take part in weaving the web connecting them to you and you to them, as they enter into their next phase of togetherness as a family. We are here to rejoice and remember that it is love that leads us to our true destinations and to celebrate with Micha, Rames & Sophie, on their arrival of love and respect and commitment at this altar.
We are here to celebrate the marriage of Micha and Rames, and to honor their life together, along with their daughter Jamie, whom they have brought into the world through their union.
We’re here to listen, to love, to dance and celebrate, and to send them into their new future with our outrageous, loving, support. So open your hearts and let the wedding begin!
Opening Blessing
Marriage is a very special place, the sheltered environment in which we can endlessly explore ourselves in the presence of another and in which we can offer the possibility of true reflection of another. May the vision that Michelle and James, bring to this venture their unique history and personality.
Reading
And, now, (Friend’s name or minister if you wish) will read a poem on True Love.
True love is a sacred flame
That burns eternally,
And none can dim its special glow
Or change its destiny.
True love speaks in tender tones
And hears with gentle ear,
True love conquers fear.
True love makes no harsh demands
It neither rules nor binds,
And, true love holds with gentle hands
The hearts that it entwines.
-True Love, Author Unknown

Address
Enfold in joy, inhabited by hope, bathed in the infinite spectrum of love, may you always be infused with it and beautifully enlightened by it. May every desire you have for your love be fulfilled. May your vision clearly enfold one another. May you hear each other most genuinely. And, may you give of your endless generosity to nourish one another’s hearts and sweetly keep the promises you make here today.
Declaration of Intent
Micha and Rames, you have declared your intention to one another to go forth in this venture of faith and love, remembering that your destinies will continue to be woven of one design and your challenges and joys will be shared together. Today you are making public, before family and friends, that the words, “I love you,” are a full commitment of yourselves, one to the other, and to the daughter you have created together, Ramie.
Understanding that marriage is the convergence of your individual and joint destinies as well as the greatest support for them,
Rames, do you choose to commit today in marriage to Micha as her husband?
Response: I do
Micha, do you choose to commit to Rames as his wife?
Response: I do
Rames and Micha, do you choose to commit today, the love and protection of your daughter Sophie?
Response: We do
Vows
(Addressing each other):
(Addressing Sophie): “We, Rames and Micha, Mom & Dad, solemnly promise that we will always care for you, protect you, love you, honor you, guide you, support you and believe in you always. We will hold you close and watch over you forever and always. We offer this gift as a symbol of our family, and our promise to you that we will always be committed to you as your loving parents.”
Ring Wishes
Exchange of Rings
Rames, Repeat after me:
I give you this ring, as a symbol of my love
And as a constant reminder
That I have chosen you, above all others
To be the one, to share my life.

Micha, Repeat after me:
I give you this ring, as a symbol of my love
And as a constant reminder
That I have chosen you, above all others
To be the one, to share my life.

Unity Candle Ceremony
Rames, Micha, and Sophie, as a family, you may now light the Unity Candle together.
Now you have lit a fire and that fire should not go out. The three of you have a fire that represents love, understanding and a philosophy of life. It will give you heat, food, warmth and happiness. The new fire represents a new beginning. The fire should keep burning; for all your days together.
From every human being there arises a light that reaches straight to heaven. And, when three souls that are destined to be together find each other, their streams of light flow into a single brighter light, that goes forth from their united being. May the light of love, the light of understanding, the light of respect and the light of tolerance shine eternally for all of you.
May the blessing of light, be with you always, light without and light within. And may the sun shine upon you and warm your heart until it glows like a great fire, so that others may feel the warmth of you love, for one another.
Pronouncement of Marriage
Micha and Rames, because you have pledged your love and commitment to each other before these witnesses, I declare that you are husband and wife. May the love that lives in and around all of us fill our hearts and infuse your lives. Navajo Marriage Blessing
The Kiss
You may now kiss to seal your union.
Closing Wishes
May you be supported, every step of your path. May you endlessly delight one another. May you rest in the comfort of knowing that you have chosen through one another to serve the highest purposes of love. Depart in peace, recognizing that what you undertake together will bring you infinite joy.

Divider

Laura & Linda
Welcome
We have come here today to celebrate and support the choice of Laura and Linda to join in marriage. Love is a miraculous gift, and it is an amazing gift to find your true love in this big and busy world. This ceremony is an outward acknowledgment of your love for one another. Your decision to marry each other will open new doors of endless wonders into future mysteries, which will be presented to you along your path.
A wedding is a celebration of the magic of finding each other, being true to yourselves and letting love shine in your hearts. We are here today, to share in this gift of love which you have been bestowed!
Reading
July
Take off your shoes now
You’ve come a long way
You walked all these miles
And now you’re in the right place

Do you realize
All the falls and flights
All the sleepless nights
All the smiles and sighs
They brought you here
They only brought you home

I’ll hold your head my dear
Make sure no one’s gonna wake you
Tomorrow you’ll still be here
No matter where your dreams will take you
Boy

Declaration of Intent
Laura, do you take Linda, to be your wife, to love, honor, comfort and cherish, from this day forward?
(Answers: “I Do”)
Linda, Do you take Julia to be your wife, to love, honor, comfort and cherish, from this day forward?
(Answers: “I Do”)
Reading
A moment of happiness
A moment of happiness,
you and I sitting on the verandah,
apparently two, but one in soul, you and I.
We feel the flowing water of life here,
you and I, with the garden’s beauty
and the birds singing.
The stars will be watching us,
and we will show them
what it is to be a thin crescent moon.
You and I unselfed, will be together,
indifferent to idle speculation, you and I.
The parrots of heaven will be cracking sugar
as we laugh together, you and I.
In one form upon this earth,
and in another form in a timeless sweet land.
Rumi
Pronouncement of Marriage
Now, because you have chosen one another, and vowed to love each other in marriage, it gives me great joy as a licensed minister through the State of Oregon, to pronounce you as a legally married couple.
You may kiss.
I introduce to you,
Laura and Linda

Divider

Thad & Michelle

Introduction
Thad & Michelle, have invited you here today to share in this joyous celebration of their bond of love for one another. With the purest intentions from their hearts to commitment in love and marriage, they will take their vows in the presence of you as their chosen witnesses; you their loving family and friends. They have asked you to be here with them, so you can take part in weaving the web connecting them to you and you to them, as they enter into their next phase of togetherness as a family. We are here to rejoice and remember that it is love that leads us to our true destinations and to celebrate with Tanner & Mickel, on their arrival of love and respect and commitment at this altar.
We are here to celebrate the marriage of Thad & Michelle, and to honor their life together. We’re here to listen, to love, to dance and celebrate, and to send them into their new future with our outrageous, loving, support. So open your hearts and let the wedding begin!
Opening Blessing
Marriage is a very special place, the sheltered environment in which we can endlessly explore ourselves in the presence of another and in which we can offer the possibility of true reflection of another. May the vision that Tanner & Mickel, bring to this venture their unique history and personality.
Reading
I didn’t fall in love with you.
I walked into love with you,
With my eyes wide open,
choosing to take every step along the way.
I do believe in fate and destiny,
But also believe we are only fated
to do the things that we’d choose anyway.
And, I’d choose you in a hundred lifetimes,
in a hundred worlds, in any version of reality,
I’d find you, and I’d choose you.
Address
Enfold in joy, inhabited by hope, bathed in the infinite spectrum of love, may you always be infused with it and beautifully enlightened by it. May every desire you have for your love be fulfilled. May your vision clearly enfold one another. May you hear each other most genuinely. And, may you give of your endless generosity to nourish one another’s hearts and sweetly keep the promises you make here today.
Declaration of Intent
Thad & Michelle, you have declared your intention to one another to go forth in this venture of faith and love, remembering that your destinies will continue to be woven of one design and your challenges and joys will be shared together. Today you are making public, before family and friends, that the words, “I love you,” are a full commitment of yourselves, and one to the other.
Understanding that marriage is the convergence of your individual and joint destinies as well as the greatest support for them,
Thad, do you choose to commit today in marriage to Mickel, as her husband?
Response: I do
Michelle, do you choose to commit to Tanner, as his wife?
Response: I do
Vows
(Addressing each other):
Michelle, Repeat after me:
I choose you, Thad,
To be my husband.
To love you, and be faithful to you,
To be a comfort, in your life and always a source of honesty,
To be a container of peace and safety for you and everyone we contact,
To be your defender against those who would take advantage or wish to harm you,
To nourish you, with my gentleness,
To uphold you, with my strength,
To let humor outwardly radiate joy from my every cell,
To love you in sickness, to care for you and be your advocate,
To love your body, as it ages,
To weigh the effects, of the words I speak,
To put honest and truthful on the table always, and to be my unique self with you,
To have no hidden agendas, and selfish personal gain,
but to be inclusive, open and sharing with you,
I will maintain a high degree of integrity with you and the world, and will take the high road always.
I will strive for personal accountability, and be always forgiving, and will treat you as well as others, as I wish to be treated, taking Karma to heart,
To always give more than I take,
To feed you and our daughter first my bread before I feed myself,
And of the things I do,
To never take you for granted,
And to be kind and compassionate,
And to always give thanks, loudly or quietly, for your presence.
I promise you this, from my heart,
For all the days of my life.
Thad, Repeat after me:
I choose you, Michelle,
To be my wife.
To love you, and be faithful to you,
To be a comfort, in your life and always a source of honesty,
To be a container of peace and safety for you and everyone we contact,
To be your defender against those who would take advantage or wish to harm you,
To nourish you, with my gentleness,
To uphold you, with my strength,
To let humor outwardly radiate joy from my every cell,
To love you in sickness, to care for you and be your advocate,
To love your body, as it ages,
To weigh the effects, of the words I speak,
To put honest and truthful on the table always, and to be my unique self with you,
To have no hidden agendas, and selfish personal gain,
but to be inclusive, open and sharing with you,
I will maintain a high degree of integrity with you and the world, and will take the high road always.
I will strive for personal accountability, and be always forgiving, and will treat you as well as others, as I wish to be treated, taking Karma to heart,
To always give more than I take,
To feed you and our daughter first my bread before I feed myself,
And of the things I do,
To never take you for granted,
And to be kind and compassionate,
And to always give thanks, loudly or quietly, for your presence.
I promise you this, from my heart,
For all the days of my life.

Ring Wishes
Exchange of Rings
Thad, Repeat after me:
I give you this ring, as a symbol of my love
And as a constant reminder
That I have chosen you, above all others
To be the one, to share my life.

Michelle, Repeat after me:
I give you this ring, as a symbol of my love
And as a constant reminder
That I have chosen you, above all others
To be the one, to share my life.

Sand Ceremony
Need: Large empty vase, small jar of neutral colored sand for officiate, two large vases of two colors of sand one for each bride and groom). Love is the eternal force of life. Love is the force that allows us to face fear and uncertainty with courage. But although you will be sharing one life, never forget that you are two separate people. Cherish and affirm your differences. Love each other. Keep your commitment primary. Together you will laugh and cry, be sick and well, be happy and angry, share and grow. Grow sometimes together, sometimes separately. To symbolize the importance of the individuals within the marriage and the joining of two live into one entity, three colors of sand will now be layered into a base. We begin with a layer of neutral sand which symbolizes that the marriage is grounded (officiate pours all of their neutral sand into large vase) Then we layer the individual colors. This symbolizes that the marriage is based on the strength of the individuals (Tanner pours some of his sand in, followed by Mickel pouring about the same amount). Officiate Speaks: And now we combine the color, which symbolized two lives joined as on together forever. (Mickel and Tanner put sand into large vase so that the colors combine until their jars are empty)

(or)

“Life’s moments are as grains of sands, forever moving and shifting with the winds of time. Today, Mickel and Tanner, you are making your eternal commitment to one another, blending the sands of your lives together. The separate vessels of sand you each hold represent’s your lives up to this moment. And from this moment on, as with the sands you now blend together, you shall become one; a family created.”

Pronouncement of Marriage
Thad & Michelle, because you have pledged your love and commitment to each other before these witnesses, I declare that you are husband and wife. May the love that lives in and around all of us fill our hearts and infuse your lives.
I pronounce to you, Mr. & Mrs. Kim!
The Kiss
You may now kiss to seal your union.
Closing Wishes
May you be supported, every step of your path. May you endlessly delight one another and be an enhancement of one another. May you rest in the comfort of knowing that you have chosen one another to serve the highest purposes of Love. Always depart in peace, always speak kindly to each other before slumber, keeping the intention of what has brought you here today close to your heart, recognizing that what you undertake together will bring you infinite joy.

Divider

Deanne and Stephen
Welcome

We have come here today to celebrate and support the choice of Deanne and Stephen, to join in marriage. Love is a miraculous gift, and it is an amazing gift to find your true love in this world. This ceremony is an outward acknowledgment of your love for one another. Your decision to marry each other will open new doors of endless wonders into future mysteries, which will be presented to you along your path. And, your commitments made here today, will deepen the bonds between you, your friends and family.
A wedding is a celebration of the magic of finding each other, being true to yourselves and letting love shine in your hearts. We are here today, to share in this gift of love which you have been bestowed!
Reading
“I will have poetry in my life. And, adventure. And, love. Love above all. No…not the artful postures of love, not playful and poetical games of love for the amusement of an evening, but love that overthrows life. Unbiddable, ungovernable, like a riot in the heart, and nothing to be done, come ruin or rapture.”
-Shakespeare in Love-
Declaration of Intent
Stephen, Do you take Deanne, to be your wife, to love, honor, comfort and cherish, from this day forward?
(Answers: “I Do”)
Deanne, Do you take Stephen, to be your husband, to love, honor, comfort and cherish, from this day forward?
(Answers: “I Do”)
Vows

Ring Exchange
And, now seal your promises with these rings,
Stephen, repeat after me;
Deanne, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love for you. Let it be a reminder that I am always by your side and that I will always be a faithful partner to you.
Deanne, repeat after me;
Stephen, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love for you. Let it be a reminder that I am always by your side and that I will always be a faithful partner to you.

May the blessing of light, be with you always, light without and light within. And may the sun shine upon you and warm your heart until it glows like a great fire, so that others may feel the warmth of your love, for one another.
Navajo Marriage Blessing
Pronouncement of Marriage
Now, because you have chosen one another, and vowed to love each other in marriage, as a licensed minister through the State of Oregon, it gives me great joy to pronounce you husband and wife.
You may kiss.
I introduce to you, Deanne and Stephen Prince.